Overall Conclusions

From my last post, the question can a child recover from a traumatic event during divorce arose to my mind. After doing my research about it, the answer is yes. Although children are more vulnerable to suffer from being traumatized, they are also able to recover faster.

I looked into the article by Help Guide, Coping with Emotional and Psychological Trauma. Authors Lawrence Robinson, Melinda Smith, and Jeanne Segal came up with different strategies for children to help get over traumatic events.

Some ways to help your child recover from a traumatic experience is to limit media exposure, engage with your child spending one on one time, feed them a healthy diet and make sure they exercise daily, and rebuild your child’s trust and safety with you. If your child still isn’t better after six weeks, that it the time to get professional help. There are tons of therapists and counselors out there who have studied these kinds of things and know exactly what kind of techniques to use to help them.

After researching all of these questions it brought me to a big question, why do people get divorces anyways? What are the main causes of why majority of people get divorced?

I found interesting facts from the Divorce Help article Top Five Reasons Couples Divorce written by Brian Beltz. Beltz puts a lot of useful facts and interesting information in his article.

Beltz believes the number one cause of people getting divorces is lack of communication and investment to the marriage. Beltz finds information from the National Fatherhood Initiative that did research and supports his belief that “Seventy three percent of couples said that the main reason for dissolving their marriage was that one or both spouses became lazy and weren’t willing to work out their problems.” After that follows too much arguing, lack of communication, cheating is the root of 55% of marriages, and married too young is number five on the list. 

I wanted to back up Beltz information he found about communicating and lack of investment being the number one reason why parents get divorced so I did a narrow search and found the article The Number One Cause Of Divorce written by Kevin Thompson. I compared the two articles and found that they both agree that the number one cause for divorce is lack of commitment and investment. Thompson writes “Our affections often grow toward our investments. Wherever we put our time, money and energy also ends up receiving our passion, interest and affection.” Thompson adds in that praying for your spouse, kissing them hello and goodbye, checking in at least once a day, 5 minutes of interrupted conversation and hugging for at least 30 seconds a day will cause your love to grow and last.

My thinking has evolved a lot about how I feel about this topic. Starting off I was totally against divorce but after doing the research I think it is best to divorce after you have tried all you can to fix it, but in a civil manner so it will be as stress less to the children involved as possible. Some questions I still have about this topic is why do parents get lazy when it comes to fixing their marriage? Will there be even more divorces in the future or will there be less?

Sources:

• https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/children-with-traumatic-stress.htm
• http://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/Sad-Child.jpg
• http://www.kevinathompson.com/number-one-cause-divorce/
• http://divorcehelp360.com/top-five-reasons-couples-divorce/
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